Working with me
I work with people one-to-one, in seasons — three months of depth work through the lens of friendship: with yourself first, and from there, with the people who matter to you.
This isn’t advice, and it isn’t a program. There’s no curriculum, no homework grades, no five-step plan. We slow down and pay attention to what’s actually happening in you — the parts that protect, criticize, hurt, want — and we let it unfold rather than trying to fix it. The premise underneath everything: nothing is missing in you. What feels like deficiency is usually disconnection, and the answer to disconnection is a friendship.
The shape of a season
We begin with the pact — a real conversation where we make everything explicit: what we’re tending together (I call it the thread), how we’ll work, what it costs, what we each commit to. Serious friendship is deliberate, so we make our agreements out loud.
Then: seven sessions of 75 minutes, on video over Zoom. Weekly for the first month, to build momentum; every other week after that. The first session is just your story — where you’ve been, where you’re stuck, who’s traveling with you — told to someone actually listening.
Between sessions, two things. A practice — one at a time, drawn from what emerged, something to keep you company during the week. And a thread between us: you can send me a voice note or message when something’s moving, and I’ll respond within a couple of days.
At the end of the season, the renewal conversation: another season, a lighter ongoing rhythm, or a completion. If it’s completion, we do something most relationships never get — a real goodbye, with reflection on what unfolded.
What I ask of you
Show up on time and actually available. Do the practices — not perfectly, but honestly. And be willing to be curious about the parts of yourself you’ve been at war with. That’s the whole job description.
The friendship question
People ask, reasonably: if you’re the Friendship Facilitator, are we becoming friends?
It should be clear by now that I don’t use the word friend lightly. So working with me doesn’t automatically make us friends — though we might become friends, if we’re meant to be. While we’re working, I’m your facilitator, fully. What we become afterward, life decides.
This is probably for you if
- Something in you already knows there’s more — more depth, more contact, more aliveness — and self-improvement projects haven’t gotten you there
- You’re willing to be curious about the parts of you you’ve been at war with
- You want a deeper relationship with the people in your life, and you suspect it starts closer to home
- You can commit to a season: three months of actually showing up
And probably not, if
- You want techniques, scripts, or a five-step plan (they exist; I don’t teach them)
- You’re looking for someone to fix you — the premise here is that nothing is missing
- What’s alive right now is untreated trauma that makes it unsafe to be with your own experience — then therapy is the right door first, and I’ll say so directly
What this isn’t
This is not therapy and not a substitute for it. If what’s alive in you is trauma that makes it unsafe to be with your own experience, the right first door is a trauma-trained therapist — and if I believe that’s the case, I’ll say so directly, warmly, and early. That’s not a rejection; it’s the ethic.
Practical things
- Sessions: 75 minutes, on video over Zoom. You’re welcome to keep just your first name on the call.
- A season: about three months, seven sessions — ₹10,500, payable in three monthly parts, or ₹9,000 if you pay upfront. Prefer to go one at a time? ₹1,500 a session. (For now I work with clients in India; if you’re reaching me from elsewhere, email me and we’ll talk. A few subsidized places exist — also just email.)
- Rescheduling: 24 hours’ notice, over WhatsApp or email. Inside 24 hours, the session is owed — the first time can slide.
- Confidentiality: what you bring stays between us.
The first conversation is free, and it decides nothing.