1:1 Sessions
Depth work in seasons: about three months, ten sessions, one thread we keep returning to. With yourself first, and from there, with the people who matter to you.
How a season works →Befriend yourself.
The rest follows.
Deepen the most important relationships in your life, starting with the one you have with yourself.
Hi, I’m Frank Lobo.
I live in Goa, India. I offer depth work through the lens of friendship. I’m trained in Aletheia (Levels 1 & 2, under Steve March): a non-coercive, trauma-informed, depth-coaching approach built on parts work, felt sense, presence, and unfolding.
My real qualification is homegrown. I spent over a decade at war with my own inner household - the critic, the doomscrolling protector, a boy who got hurt a long time ago - and I write about that war, and the slow ceasefire, in public. If you want the longer story before we ever talk, I wrote it down: how I stopped waiting for the world to end and chose instead to be a friend till the end.
Ways to work together
The Art of Friendship
A day-long workshop, eight people at most. We explore friendship with ourselves in the morning and friendship with others after lunch.
About the workshop →Maitrī: Monthly Circle
Free, online, once a month. Seventy-five minutes of exploring the quality of friendliness — a small taste of the work, no strings attached.
About Maitrī →How I work
Mostly, we slow down.
Attention drops out of the story and into the body: presence happens in the body, in participation with what’s unfolding.
The different voices in you - the one that wants to change, the one that refuses, the one frustrated with both - get treated as company, not obstacles. And nothing gets forced: something in you already knows its next move, and most of the work is simply letting be and letting unfold.
Behind this sit six commitments you can hold me to. The first is that I won’t manufacture urgency. The second is that I won’t treat you as a project.
From people I’ve practiced or worked with
“Frank has a beautiful way of holding space for me. He makes me feel deeply seen, heard, and understood. By allowing me to simply be myself without judgment, he creates the kind of space where I can see who I truly am.”
“Working with Frank has been a truly powerful experience. His thoughtful questions and deep listening created a safe space of acceptance, where I could discover my own clarity and insights. I came away from each session with greater self-awareness which has led to meaningful personal growth.”
“Having worked with several coaches, I’ve found Frank to bring a gentle and unique sensitivity to our sessions. His support has helped me learn how to be with some of my toughest emotions and move through them, in ways that I had struggled with before. It has always been clear how sincere and open he is as a person, and to me, that makes him a truly great companion on any inner journey. I recommend him wholeheartedly.”
“I spent years chasing goals and systems without ever slowing down. Frank holds space, and in that space, I stopped climbing long enough to understand what Robert Pirsig meant when he wrote that it’s the sides of the mountain that sustain life, not the top. It’s that space you carry away with you, as stillness, into your own life. That’s his gift.”
“Frank has been a guide through one of the most transformative phases of my life. At times he walked beside me. At times he showed me the path and let me walk it alone. What I’m most grateful for is that he never tried to fix me—he showed me that everything was already here and there was nothing to be fixed.”
“Frank has a big heart and a sharp discernment. In our coaching sessions I always feel seen and heard, and in just a few minutes he helps me uncover things that I hadn’t seen about myself.”
Among the Sakyans there was a town called Sakkara. Ānanda went to the Buddha there, bowed, and sat down to one side.
He had been working something out, and he had it now. “This is half of the holy life, lord — admirable friendship, admirable companionship, admirable camaraderie.”
“Don’t say that, Ānanda. Don’t say that,” corrected the Buddha. “Admirable friendship, admirable companionship, admirable camaraderie is actually the whole of the holy life.”
Upaddha Sutta, Saṃyutta Nikāya 45.2